Sunday, May 15, 2016

Transgender access to bathrooms

By now, everyone has heard about Obama's administration issuing a directive to all public schools across the nation to allow transgendered students access to whichever bathroom they identify with. Although there is no law to back up this directive, he has threatened to cut the schools off from any federal aid that do not wish to comply. He also said that there would be lawsuits to follow. Both Justice and Education officials signed this declaration in hopes that certain students will no longer be discriminated against.

On social media, I've seen many of the following comments:

"Am I just naive or how many transgender students do we really have in grade school? .5%? 1%? (I'm guessing but can't imagine it's many) So we are seriously going to confuse the hell out of >99% of the student body to appease the government for what reason??"

How exactly would this be confusing the rest of the student body? There will still be a boys and girls bathroom, but the kids whose gender identity doesn't match their sexual identity given at birth can use the bathroom that they feel to be comfortable with. I feel like it would be more discriminatory/confusing to add a third bathroom for these individuals... I don't see how this would be  any different than when there were separate bathrooms for those of different skin color. 

"These are kids they don't even know who they are yet the Democrats are trying to turn kids into transgender kids WTF people wake up these are our children."

PLEASE give me the reasoning behind this statement because I am at a loss for words knowing that people in this world actually think this way. Let's throw it back to Intro to Psychology and the very old nature vs. nurture debate. Nature refers to the way a person's genes are expressed and nurture is how the person's environment has shaped them. Whether or not someone is homosexual or heterosexual or transgender is not based off of nurture, rather it is based off of nature. As a matter of fact, extensive research done at Johns Hopkins Children Center proves just that - that gender identity is almost entirely based on nature and is almost exclusively predetermined before the birth of the baby. Two studies conducted by William Reiner, a child and adolescent psychiatrist and urologist, have confirmed that the amount of exposure to male hormones and androgens in utero almost exclusively decides whether the child identifies as masculine or feminine (Thanks, Penn State for the info)

"Yep gotta keep those 5th graders from seeing the other genders genitalia..."

And again, WHAT am I reading here? Every bathroom I was exposed to growing up as a kid had stalls and I didn't simply walk around flaunting my private parts to the other classmates. And if anyone did that, they would be expelled (I actually went to high school with a guy who did that and was expelled, but moving on...) After talking to some friends of mine, they all went to school where the boys' bathroom had both stalls and urinals. So if a female identified as a male, he could use the stall in the boys' bathroom with no problems at all. I definitely agree that young kids shouldn't be exposed to other's private areas, but whether a transgendered student is using the bathroom they identify with has nothing to do with it. Any kid flaunting around what they have should be punished regardless of their gender identity. 

I think the government is actually moving in the right direction with this issue for once and I fully stand behind them in support. I think there is a better solution, for instance: getting rid of the boys and girls stalls altogether and creating stand alone bathrooms that aren't labeled anything other than "restroom". No one is excluded, there's no chance for children to be confused (insert eye roll here), and everyone is happy. 

What do you guys think about the issue? I know it's a hot topic and let's face it, I'm always up for a good debate.

Friday, March 25, 2016

Leaving the world of nursing and entering in to....

For those of you that know me well, you know I am such a nerd when it comes to science. If it came down to choosing between working in a lab or working with people, hands down I would choose working in a lab because most people are annoying.

I have taken such a huge step in my college career today and I'm so excited to share it with you! I have officially switched my major to Criminal Justice with a concentration in Forensics and a minor in Biology.

To give you a quick peak into my upcoming course load, here's a few classes I get to look forward to:

  • Criminal Investigations
  • Death Investigation
  • Evidence
  • Drug Identification
And to satisfy my love for biology...
  • Principles of Biology I/II
  • Evolutionary Biology
  • and much more!
If you didn't catch last week's post, you're probably wondering what happened and why I am no longer a nursing major. To read about it, click here! Long story short, it took a rejection waitlist letter from the program to realize that nursing isn't where my heart lies and I am so thankful to have the amazing advisement staff at the University of North Georgia to help me along with this process. 

Basically, my future is going to (hopefully) look a lot like Abby's life in NCIS... minus the quirky clothes and pig tails.

Thanks for reading and I can't wait to share my experiences with these classes come Fall semester!

Saturday, March 19, 2016

.... I didn't get into the nursing program

Life has its way of taking its own course... even if it's not what you planned. Like at all. Last week the University of North Georgia sent out letters that let you know if you were admitted or not into their highly competitive Nursing program. If the title of this post hasn't clued you in yet, I didn't get in. Saying it out loud makes it all real. This is the first time I've even gotten around to letting myself think about it. What will I do now? What will my major be? Will I even change my major? Should I try again a year from now?

This is all extremely stressful to say the least. My dreams of helping people, working in a bustling hospital, and living out my Grey's Anatomy fantasy life has been tossed out the window.

So maybe I wasn't meant to be a nurse and it took the harsh reality of not getting into the program to let me know that. I don't regret the classes I've taken (except Medical Microbiology, but if you like that class then I question your sanity). The Human Anatomy courses have been one of the most interesting classes I've ever taken and I love every minute of it.

So maybe I'll pursue a different science major, like Chemistry or Biology and take my chances in applying for medical school and follow in the steps of my brother. I will say that watching him go through that makes that option seem less than ideal... Okay so maybe not med school.

Maybe I'll get a major in Criminal Justice and a minor in psychology and work my way up to be a detective. I've always loved CSI and Law and Order......

Either way, the beauty of this entire ordeal is that I get to recreate my future. Essentially, I get to start over. I've decided to not look at this as an end, but a new beginning. And hey, so I'll be in college a little bit longer than normal. Who wants to grow up anyways? The only thing waiting for me after graduation is a job and bills.

So I've decided to sit back and enjoy the ride. Maybe I'll figure out what I want to do with my life along the way.

I'd love to hear similar stories and how everything turned out for you - maybe you didn't get into your dream college or the sorority you wanted or the job you applied for.

Until next time,

Tuesday, March 1, 2016

With great power comes great responsibility

Why yes, I just quoted Spiderman and I'm not the least bit ashamed. Excuse me while I hold the tears back from thinking about Uncle Ben.... anyways...

Over the years of going to school, I've had my fair share of being beneath people in leadership positions as well as holding some of my own. With that said, I've seen some of the backwards things people do in said positions and I feel as though change needs to happen. 

Those with power tend to have many hypocritical tendencies... What is not acceptable of those beneath them tends to get swept under the rug when it comes down to pointing fingers. When members are brought into an organization and witness these acts, it's not long after that they start to learn their game. By following the example that those above them have set, they learn that disobeying the rules is okay as long as you don't get caught. After all, they exhibit that day after day in their own lives so why wouldn't the members start to pick up on those habits?

You see, it isn't the rules that's an issue and I think that's where the disconnect is between leadership and followers. The problem lies in the actions of those leaders. Defiance would be brought to an all-time minimum if leadership was held to the same standards and accountability of those beneath them. When the "followers" gets reprimanded for an action, many of them wouldn't be upset or even breaking the rules in the first place if they knew that those around them are getting the same consequences. 

Successful leaders know that the following is a must:

  • Ability to embrace change  seeing problems and fixing them before things get out of hand. Just because the current rules/regulations are more comfortable being the way they've always been, doesn't make them the most effective. There is always room for improvement and if that means replacing leadership that isn't okay with change, then that needs to be done.
  • Communication – having communication with those you are leading is a vital part of being a successful leader. Running a dictatorship isn't effective and will ultimately turn your people against you and cause problems. 
  • Collaboration – Not only communicating with those you are leading, but implementing their ideas and actually hearing what they have to say is important. This builds a relationship so strong that it would take great forces to break. 
  • Team Development – this ties in with the above three points. Team development will only come with the leadership of a fair leader. A fair leader is one who stands up for their people rather than breaking them down.
Not only are the unfair standards a problem, but the constant condescending attitude and judgment from those in leadership is also something that needs to be kept under control. At one point in time, those in higher positions were just like you and me – normal and having to follow the rules set forth by those in charge. It's a wonder that they wouldn't have sympathy in regards to those they are leading and the power seems to fill their heads, not leaving room for any common courtesy. 

John 8:7 holds a lot of relevance to this topic. 

"Whoever is without sin among you, let him be the first to cast a stone at her."
What are your experiences with unfair leadership and how were those problems resolved? Share below in the comments or email me at! I love hearing from all of my wonderful readers.